After my recent article “When a Woman Turns a Man’s Head” the question was raised: How do you handle your current woman’s feelings when you obviously notice another woman?
The best advice I can offer is to be really with your woman when you’re with her. Give her your 100% when it is your time to be together. Be transparent with how you feel and what’s “up” with you. Let her know how important she is to you. Find out her “love language” (see book by Gary Chapman) and give affection in her preferred way.
More than anything else that you can give, your woman wants your presence most of all. When my head is turned momentarily my woman is secure in knowing that I am deeply in love with her and my appreciation of another’s beauty will not affect my want and desire for her.
She knows the internal process that happens with me at those moments because I have shared that with her. (See my previous article “When a Woman Turns a Man’s Head.) She feels the renewal and the life that I bring to her because I am alive and optimistic and that she is my chosen one. She has seen my integrity proven time and again. She knows that she is my clear choice as a woman.
We also re-orient to our love often. (E.g. through words, affectionate touch, small gifts and by connecting in a brief, but meaningful way at transitions.) We try to start every day with some form of connecting in love. We are honest with the truth in our bodies. What I mean is that when I’m aroused my lover knows and when I am feeling conservative with my energy I’ll communicate that to her, too. This supports our ability to be true partners with each other.
The author, Corey, is a Certified Tantra Educator and Intimacy Coach who teaches workshops and offers private coaching sessions in person and by phone. Subscribe to his blogs at www.tantracore.wordpress.com and www.corerelationship.com - Resources for creating a conscious intimate life and embracing emotional and sexual intimacy.