Tokii starts both silly and serious conversations between couples.
Right now the lab's hottest topic is the holidays. Here are a few articles and stats that have come in handy to me this time of year:
• According to their "Festive with the family" infographic (see below), 56 percent of women and 48 percent of men agree that Christmas is a time to be with family. Unfortunately in the early stages of a relationship it is hard to explain to your mother that you'd rather forgo family traditions to visit a boyfriend.
• Fifty percent of couples have already done the nasty in their parents' house (cough), but Tokii also found that the holidays can be a strain on the sex life—though 88 percent of men and 62 percent of women are going to schedule a quickie to relieve stress and spread holiday cheer. Read some sexy horror stories here: "I Saw Mommy Doing Santa Claus."
• Six million people take out loans to pay for their overspending at Christmas time! Learn how to "Nurse the Financial Hangover." Since we don't have the money to spare (I'm a freelance writer, he's a grad student), we have agreed on monetary cap for gifts this year. It works because really all we want is to spend time together.
This year, my boyfriend and I will be spending Christmas and New Year's Eve apart (bummer). However Tokii has helped us start a new tradition together. On the first visit in 2012 we are going to have a Holiday Smash—one day, three holiday celebrations. We have already started using the TradingPost to set up plans. He has agreed to burn a CD with all the Christmas favorites, and I'm going to make Cornish hens that we can pretend are mini-turkeys. Despite the miles between us, using Tokii for the past month has certainly helped to bring us closer together.