8. The traditions fight: He wants to skip the Christmas carols this year, you don't.
How to fix it: Explain why this tradition is important to you and try to understand why he wants to skip it. This two-way empathy should help you discuss without arguing and, hopefully, find a middle ground.
9. The time fight: He says you're working too much; you say you're trying to earn a big bonus to pay for all your holiday expenses.
How to fix it: Plan some family- or couple-oriented activities and put them on your calendar—in red ink. He'll feel good knowing you've committed time to him, and you'll feel good knowing you can work the rest of the time.
10. The exhaustion fight. One or both of you is exhausted—and you take it out on each other.
How to fix it: When you feel yourself getting angry, ask yourself, "Am I really mad at him, or am I just stressed in general?" To help alleviate stress, YourTango Expert Dr. Carolyn Daitch recommends this breathing exercise: "Take five deep breaths, inhaling to the count of five and exhaling to the count of eight."