When you're starting over after a divorce, try to keep a positive outlook as you begin dating again.
Our guest bloggers today are the Garter Brides: Ann, Pat and Tish. The mighty threesome started their sisterhood when they each wore the same garter to their weddings and shared their 'lucky' garter with women all over the world who got married at 35+. They also wrote their book, Love for Grown-Ups: The Garter Brides' Guide to Marrying for Life When You've Already Got a Life, to share their invaluable advice with women who are looking for love later in life and getting back into the dating scene. Here are their top five tips for what not to share on that first date…
1. Leave Your Anger At Home. So many divorcees are angry about their situations, disappointed they haven't met someone, or resentful of their ex-husband's lives. Let it go. Don't start out on a brand new date simmering with pent-up rage. It's not fair to either of you. Relax and plan something that's going to be fun for the two of you to do. Enjoy your newfound freedom!
2. Don't Stress out Because it's a First Date. Being nervous can make you tongue-tied or maybe you're the type who rattles on about office trivia or family jokes. Before you go out, think about what you already know about this person. Then on the date, concentrate on what you'd like to know about. Remember, everyone is nervous on a first date, both men and women! Keep in mind that you are out with each other because you both want the same thing — to meet someone you like, have fun with and maybe it will lead to something more.
For three more post-divorce first-date don'ts, visit eHarmony: Dating Don'ts For Divorcees: 5 Things NOT To Bring Up On A First Date
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