Why we do some things, no one knows. But if we think it’s love, we’ll do it. Like telling someone we ski when we don’t. Because they’re into skiing and we want to do things with them and we just know it’ll be easy to pick it up. No, no, no. Do not do this. I learned this one the hard way. And ended up on the roof. Of a shed. On the slopes.
It was supposed to be skiing on the trails, and not scary. But, in my enthusiasm for my new beau, I neglected to mention that I had never skied before, and in fact, found the whole thing a little scary. But I, the ever idealistic pleaser, was sure it would work itself out. Right. So there we were. Of course, I looked the part in my expensive sexy snowbunny suit, so I figured that would make it all work out. I’d look so good it wouldn’t matter that I didn’t ski. But here’s the thing, with a real guy who’s authentic, he really was looking forward to doing the activity we’d planned – skiing. It was me, not him, that was all about being with me looking pretty. I didn’t get that then, though. And it wasn’t the only time I’d done that.
No, I’d wakeboarded the same way. With lots of enthusiasm, no experience and no intention of doing it. But I could look the part. In my new sexy bathing suit. Do you see a theme here? Good, because I didn’t. Not for a long time. The couple we went wakeboarding with had a real relationship going – they both were real people who did real things together and while she might not have been as cutesy as me, she had a real relationship with a guy and I had a date. With yet another one of those guys that never turns into anything more than a date or two. But I still didn’t get it. It would be a long, long time before I’d finally understand the case for being real, and honest; and that the guy I should have been looking out for wasn’t the kind who would trade the real activity with a pretty package hanging on his arm.
I had yet to learn what a real relationship looked like. But I’d seen enough to know this wasn’t it. And here’s the newsflash on this one, girlfriends, I’ve talked to enough guys since all this to hear that they really don’t want to spend their time with us teaching us to wakeboard or ski. Really they don’t. They’d much rather we just be honest with them, let them know we’d love to do said activity with them, but we’ve never learned or don’t really enjoy the cold, or aren’t really that interested in it, but we’d love to meet them at the lodge after they’re done skiing or whatever activity they want to do.