Is This Normal? He Won't Shut The Cupboard Doors!


A husband refuses to shut cupboard doors. Is this normal?

I thought our house was haunted. Every morning and evening, the cupboard doors would be hanging wide open, like some lazy poltergeist had come through. I thought it was my fault. I thought I was going crazy, until I realized it was my husband. He is a consumate opener of cupboards and always forgets to close them. I swear he doesn't even notice they are open until I go into the kitchen and slam them all shut.

He shuts bathroom cupboards, doors, windows and drawers like a champ. It's just cupboards that are his kryptonite.

I tried talking to him about it and he laughed and said he'd do better and he did, for a while. But now I'm back to living with Casper the Lazy Ghost. 

It's one of those little things. I don't want to make a big deal out of it. I sometimes forget to cap the toothpaste, so quid pro quo, right? But I have to wonder, is this normal? Is my husband the only one who "forgets" to shut cupboard doors?

So tell me, is not shutting the cupboard doors normal?

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