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Spill the Wine

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Spill the Wine
Four ways that having a drink can help you find Love.

With the holidays coming, social gatherings are sure to be on everyone’s agenda. At the next party or night out, instead of wasting time explaining to anybody about the reason your single, tell your favorite pushy acquaintance (or family member) that you’re “workin’ on it,” grab a drink and show everybody that they’ve got nothing to worry about. Before we begin, I’ll start by giving credit where it’s due by mentioning that many tweets ago, Your Tango’s very own (Tomfoolery) Tom, threw out a hash tag tweet that said that #songsthatleadtosex were any songs by War or NWA. Now, maybe "Straight Outta Compton" might not work so well, but I’ll say a little "Why Can’t We Be Friends" attitude is encouraged when we talk about drinking, flirting and well…“becoming friends.”


This post is dedicated to all the women who wonder just how going to nighttime hot spots or cocktail parties are supposed to help any gal get a date. It’s not necessary that women pick up on someone when they want to simply have fun with friends, but if you’ve ever wondered what drinking could actually bring to the table except you making a fool of yourself, then, check this out. Let me explain my perspective on decisions you can make in order to get your “going out” have a little more “going on” in the Love department.


Here are four ways to decide what you want to do and how to treat alcohol as you ally. Choose one or choose them all. I won’t judge and I try to never steer a girl wrong. I promise.


Ask yourself if you want to:


1. Pick up on the quiet guy.
You spot a guy who apparently has no ties, but acts a little shy. Sometimes he’s close, sometimes he’s far, but he always looks appealing. You want to get to know him and even if it turns out that he’s taken, at least you got to talk to a hot guy. Stop over analyzing it and go ahead.
Buy him a drink.
When the server presents him with the drink, he will most likely inquire where it came from. From experience, I can tell you that most servers have mastered the way of nonchalantly announcing a liquid offering from guest to guest, so don’t worry about that. If you catch the guy accepting the drink while looking your way, wave “Hi, how are you?” or lift your own drink in a subtle “cheers” like gesture. If he’s across the room, simultaneously mouth something incomprehensible. You wanted him closer than farther, didn’t you?