How Kim Kardashian Could Re-Claim Her Marriage from Divorce

As a Pro-Marriage Counselor, I can tell you that the best relationship science is clear. Not only does marriage as a relationship have dozens of well researched emotional, physical, sexual, economic and spiritual benefits, but it’s almost never too late to save a marriage.

Yes, Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries could not just save their marriage, but they could utterly transform it into something beutiful and long lasting. For example, they could follow in the gigantic marriage-saving footsteps of Gene Simmons. But this would require a clear choice combined with a science-proven marriage-transformation strategy.

For the sake of argument, here’s an 8 Part Marriage Saving Strategy that Kim Kardashian, Kris Humphries and just about any other couple can apply to avoid divorce and build an incredibly healthy, long lasting marriage:

1. Mutual Commitment. The first step in any divorce-busting marriage-transformation plan is for both partners to fully commit to and follow through with a shared plan of action.

Most couples on the verge of divorce have experienced a great deal of emotional pain because of chronically unmet basic relationship needs. It’s ok and even necessary in most cases, to suspend any expectation for a positive or negative outcome.

In fact, just like in the most effective therapy for mild to moderate clinical depression or anxiety, it’s best not to do any serious emotional or relationship self-appraisal, for at least a couple of weeks. All efforts need to be focused on targeted relationship behavior changes and later on emotional repair processes.

It is good and even advised to focus on the small postives at firstt though. For example, if one of your core relationship needs is to have more of the housework shared, it can be very helpful to pay close attention to and even to offer descriptive praise for such postive relationship behavior changes. It's the big questions, like: "Will this relationship last?" that should not be seriously considered until some major effort has been invested in saving it first. 

What is absolutely critical for effectively reversing the separation and divorce process is that each partner fully commits to do what it takes to rebuild and protect their emotional connection over the long haul. It may not feel very good at first, but with the right commitment level and a science-proven marriage transformation plan, I believe over 95% of couples can utterly fall in love again and learn to keep that love alive. It’s all about “acting in spite of ourselves” to get the process going at first.

2. Establish Realistic Relationship Expectations. One of the biggest reasons for relationship failure, apart from cheating and a lack of basic relationship maintenance skills, is an unrealistic understanding of what a long term relationship really is.