"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me"
I remember this song from my childhood. It was what parents often said to their child(ren) when they came home crying or upset about something another child said to them or about them. We were made to believe that words don't hurt. As an adult, I completely disagree with this. Words do hurt! It's often the words from loved ones that hurt the most. As the Married to Him series nears its end, I decided to tackle verbal abuse. The how's, why's, and what to do's.
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Verbal abuse is defined as language that is used to control, manipulate, belittle, ridicule, or humiliate another person. Here are 5 signs you are in a verbally abusive relationship;
1.Your mate talks down to you and doesn't respect you as the second part to the relationship. "You aren't talking about anything important by talking about your feelings"
2.They belittle you with name calling, negative jokes, and constant criticism. "You just mopped the floor?! You missed a spot"
3.They blame you for everything even their mistakes. "I wouldn't cheat if you would just stop talking and do what I tell you"
4.They use threats to control your behavior and actions. "You gonna beat if you don't do what I tell you"
5.They constantly dismiss your feelings, ideas, or endeavours. "You crying?! Man get outta her with that crap."
Verbal abuse is sad and destructive. The worse part is it's harder to identify because a common trait of an abusive person is alienating the victim from their family and friends so they have no one to turn too. It is far worse than physical abuse!
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Let's not judge these people in the these types of relationships. Any form of abuse is hard to walk away from because of the destruction to the victim's self-esteem. Abusers are expert manipulators!
What's your opinion on verbal abuse?