7 Signs He's Dating You For Your Money


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The sugar mama survival handbook: how to know he's after your money, and what to do if he is.

Eventually he'll stops paying for things and "expect you to provide and pay for things most or all of the time," Kirschner says.

3. He has expensive taste. Does he only like to go to the fanciest restaurants? Does he have a penchant for Dolce and Gabbana? Is he hounding you about taking a trip to Tuscany? According to dating and relationship coach Nicole Johnson, "A man is dating you for your pecuniary prestige if he consistently proposes you go shopping together, makes continual references about traveling with you or constantly suggests going out to expensive venues."


Spira says that it's easy to go from "talking about future romantic trips" to "suddenly paying for vacations." 

"If you're concerned someone is dating you for your money, leave your wallet and purse behind," she advises. "Don't buy him gifts and don't accept extravagant gifts."

4. He has financial troubles, and they're never his fault. "If you suspect that a man is dating you for your money, try to find out if the person is in a lot of debt or if they have borrowed money and not repaid the loan," says Kirschner. "Get them to talk about their last serious relationship or marriage and how it ended. You can find clues there."

Beware of the man who doesn't accept responsibility for his lack of funds or poor credit score. "Often these problems are blamed on another woman or a previous spouse," says Spira. The next empty bank account could be yours. Poll: In A Marriage, Whose Money Is It Anyway?

5. He asks you for money. Asking for a loan is a sign that he may see you as a cash machine rather than a real love interest, says Kirschner.

If you suspect this is the case, talk to him about his financial situation. "I believe conversations about finances need to take place in any relationship," says Spira. "You need to know how you would be sharing expenses and his values towards spending, credit and savings."

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