The Myth of the Secret Code


The Myth of the Secret Code

OK, so the title of this blog is misleading.  There is no secret code to unlocking a woman’s libido.  I’m sorry to be the one to tell you this, but it’s the truth.  The one constant about women is that what turns us on is never the same.  Never might be stretching the truth a wee bit, but rarely will the same thing turn us on every time.  It’s one of the things that is probably the most maddening about us as a species.


Take oral sex, for
example.  I’ve seen instructions that men should treat a
woman’s clitoris like an ice cream cone, giving it long slow
licks.   Sometimes that’s nice, and it’s certainly a
good tool in the foreplay arsenal, but it’s never going to bring
most women (including me) to orgasm.

Kissing is the same way. 
Sometimes a long, slow kiss is super sexy, but other times, little
nibbles are better.  She might love your tongue down her throat
tonight and try to suck it out of your mouth, but tomorrow it could
make her gag.  I’m sorry, I wish this wasn’t the truth.

Breast play, same story. 
Maybe last week you could be rough and tweak her nipples until
another radio station comes in, but if you try it tonight, she’ll
clock you one.

Intercourse?  Yes,
same story.  Don’t expect that the position that had her
begging for mercy on Sunday will do it for her on Wednesday. 
They say variety is the spice of life, and when it comes to sex it
definitely is.