Where are the best places...

Today, a friend of mine was preparing to speak to a group of single
women on the subject of where to meet men.  She asked me my thoughts on
the subject, and I gave her a list of places that I hung out.

Now, the places that I hang out are not dives.  If I am not in a
comedy club or on some other stage performing, I would prefer to spend
my time in upscale lounges and restaurants.  I like the atmosphere, I
like to watch the people interacting, and I can always find someone to
strike up a conversation with for the evening.  In other words, it is my
kind of place.

So, I got to thinking… I did not give my friend a list of places that
women could meet men.  I gave my friend a list of places that I could
be found.  This got me thinking even more.

It does not matter if you are a man or a woman, the question is the same… “Where do I meet someone?”

The answer hit me today!… STOP LOOKING!

Let me explain.

When working with my clients (who are mainly men), I take them out
into the field to approach women.  I want to give them the experience of
approaching a woman, opening a conversation with her, and intriguing
her; and I want them to experience and practice these skills in a
variety of environments.  I put them in a coffee shop, in a mall, in a
restaurant at lunchtime, in a popular club on a busy weekend night, on
the sidewalk on a casual Sunday afternoon, etc…

With all of these environments, the club on a weekend night is
probably the easiest.  It is much harder to approach a woman in a coffee
shop, a mall, a restaurant, or on a sidewalk; because the club has
something that other locations do not… drunk girls.

Men think they are doing well when they can approach a woman and keep
her in a conversation for over five minutes.  They do not pay attention
to her body language and the fact that she is tipsy.  The real test is…
Can you open and keep a conversation going with a sober woman?  That is
when most men begin to get a little stressed.

What you have to understand is… I do not expect my clients to find a
woman, let alone a relationship, when I first take them out in the field
to these places.  I simply want them to gain the experience of
approaching and conversing with women.  I want them to be comfortable in
all situations; and more importantly, confident in all situations.

So, my friend whom with I brainstormed places for people to meet today… All of those places are good for practice.  There are two factors that I had not taken into consideration until I spent much thought on the subject today…

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Serendipity and Interests

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Eureka!  The key ingredients that everyone is looking for!

Not only do you want to meet someone, but you want to meet someone
who you actually want to start a relationship with, someone who has
similar interests, and someone with whom you are able to hold a
conversation without it being tedious.  Right?

Now, the question becomes… Where do you find these particular people?

Serendipity and Interests, My Friend… Serendipity and Interests.

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