Basic principles… No woman wakes up saying, “God, I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today.”
Now, she might say, “This is a really bad time for me.” Or something like, “I just need some space.” Or my personal favorite, “I’m really into my career right now.”
You believe that? Neither does she.
You know why? Because she’s lying to you, that’s why.
You understand me? Lying.
It’s not a bad time for her. She doesn’t need any space. She may be into her career; but what she’s really saying is, “Get away from me now.” Or possibly, “Try harder, stupid.”
Well, which one is it?
- Opening from the movie “Hitch”
Women want to be swept off their feet, but they sometimes do not know how to get out of their own way.
If you have read any of my columns here or in a variety of publications, you know that the obstacles that women throw at men are programmed responses to keep creeps moving along.
It is really not a bad time, she doesn’t need space, and she would find time in her busy schedule for a man who connects with her and sweeps her off her feet.
Now, it may not always be described as being “swept off my feet”. It could be referred to as “the fairy tale”, “my soul mate”, or “the one”. Regardless of what she calls it, it all means the same thing; and it is not what you think, Men.
Women think they know what they want, but what they think they want and what they really want are two different things.
Men who hear women say “I just want to be swept off of my feet” or “I want the fairy tale” have a tendency to move into a downward spiral of supplication… smothering her with dinners, flowers, and gifts; following her around, doing what she wants to do all the time, and giving up what is fun to you; and, basically, becoming the next wussy to enter and eventually leave her life.
I know… I have done these things, and I have suffered the consequences. What gives me the authority to write this column is the novel idea that I learned from my mistakes, made changes, failed some more, made more changes, and finally found what the heck “the fairy tale” is.
So, listen up! This will change your thought process towards women.-
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