First of all, I commend you for being an observant and concerned family member and wanting to approach this issue as sensitively as possible. I would continue to research free or sliding scale therapy in your area if you haven't already exhausted all the resources available. Have you called the psych departments at your local universities and colleges? Students in the final year(s) of their PhD programs have to fulfill a certain number of clinical hours before graduating and often offer their counseling for free to community members. I would also contact your local chapter of PFLAG, the organization for parents, family and friends of lesbians and gays. It's an invaluable source of information and support, and can help guide you through the process of supporting your BIL. Another organization you can connect with is the GLBT National Help Center which, in addition to listing 15 000 support resources, "provides free and confidential telephone and internet peer-counseling, information and local resources for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning callers throughout the United States." You don't have to do this alone; help is available free of charge, and these wonderful organizations I've listed are good places to start looking for it. The Frisky: Does Your Real-Life Lover Live Up To Your Dream Partner?
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