5 Mistakes Men Keep Making In Bed

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If you're unhappy with your sex life, is your man making these mistakes?

"Unless you're both into having a quickie, being goal oriented is the biggest turnoff," says Fulbright. "The ride -- the anticipation -- is half the fun, so enjoy it."

Spend some time just kissing and touching the parts of your partner's body that you may be neglecting. Make sure she's satisfied first before you cross the finish line.

 

Mistake No. 4: Not Making Love Frequently Enough
Most men say that if it were up to them, they'd be having sex every night of the week. But how many times has your partner found you asleep on the couch with ESPN blaring on the television?

"If you don't seem interested in sex, then your woman's inner good girl won't want to put pressure on you," says Fulbright. "Don't be afraid to have sex just for sex's sake, as this ups testosterone and libido and makes you both desire it even more."

If that's not enough of an incentive, having more sex can actually lengthen your lifespan. "The average American has sex once a week, and we know from studies, that doubling that to twice a week can mean you live three years longer," Dr. Oz told The Boston Herald.

Initiate sex even if you're tired or not really in the mood. Once you get going, chances are you'll be into it.

Mistake No. 5: Not Giving Women More Massages
Giving a massage can sound about as much fun as a trip to that fancy soap and candle store in the mall. But by spending time touching your partner in a sensual but not quite sexual way, you'll make her more relaxed and open to the idea of having sex.

"Massage can be critical to helping her relax and inviting her sexual response," says Fulbright. "Plus, this kind of human touch feels so good and is so needed these days. Cultivating the sensual, as well as the sexual, gets you major brownie points in the bedroom."

Dim the lights, offer her a glass of cucumber water and break out the massage oil. Pretty soon she'll be saying, "A little to the left, please. Ah ... right there."

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Written by Ronnie Koenig for Aol Health