Can You Get Addicted To A Vibrator? We Find Out

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After having the best orgasms of her life, our writer wonders: Can you get addicted to a vibrator?

But it gave me what I can say without hyperbole was the best orgasm of my life. Coming had become increasingly difficult over the years—anti-depressants and age had conspired to make climaxing more something I sought out and got near rather than something I actually experienced. But the wand rubbed that elusiveness away. Suddenly I was coming—sometimes two and three times in a row—without even having to cook up any fantasies. By the time I'd finished the assignment, I'd thrown all the other vibrators out so that I could focus solely on my relationship with the wand. I'd also long since abandoned the towel.

I don't believe it's a coincidence that my love affair with the wand coincided directly with a dark period in my love life. And I don't mean dark period in the sense that it was negative; I mean in the sense that it was essentially non-existent. Men, who came with baggage and occasional bad moods and far less of a guarantee of sexual pleasure than my plug-in, began to seem not terribly necessary. 

 

I was a little afraid I might never be able to get back to men, but according to Jamye Waxman, sex educator and the author of Getting Off: A Woman's Guide to Masturbation, "If you use a vibrator it might be more difficult, or take longer, to orgasm from other forms of stimulation like a hand or tongue, but if you stop using the vibrator then after a week or two all systems should be go. Also, you can downgrade the power of your vibe, so say you're using a Hitachi magic wand, switch to a pocket rocket to help regain some sensitivity."

Well, I neither wanted to downgrade nor go cold turkey, so instead I just tried to introduce the guys I was dating to the wand. Their reactions varied from what appeared to be feigned enthusiasm (he wasn't going to be that guy who was actually threatened by a woman's vibrator!) to outright disdain. The men who claimed they wanted to watch me use it seemed to go limp when they heard its lawnmower-like noise. And with an audience, the wand and I couldn't seem to get into our groove, anyway. During these threesomes, my orgasms, when they happened, tended to be wholly unsatisfying.

 
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