When I first went to Russia in 2002, I was mesmerized at how
approachable, open and relaxed people were, especially the young women.
It was surreal and unimaginable. Coming from America and Taiwan, I was
used to only old people and little children being open and relaxed, not
young attractive women, which in my cultures are the LEAST open and
approachable. In Russia, I kept pinching myself to see if I was
dreaming, but I wasn't. It was real! I had discovered the "holy grail" of dating and social life.
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But the problem was, this "holy grail" was a huge social taboo, so taboo
in fact that you will not find it mentioned in any book or publication.
You see, in any culture, you are NOT allowed to say that people are
anti-social, uptight and closed. You are only allowed to either say that
everyone/most people are friendly and wonderful, or blame yourself for
your own self-deficiencies. But you are NEVER allowed to blame the
social culture or environment, no matter how justified it may be to do
In fact, if you go to the largest public library, you will not find any
book or publication stating that people in any particular culture are
uptight, anti-social, closed and unapproachable, or that some cultures
are more open and sociable than others. Neither will you find any book
in your library that mentions the reality of this "holy grail", for to do so would violate the social taboo mentioned above. The closest thing to it would be sociology/cultural studies textbooks which mention that some cultures are more individualistic while others are more collectivist.
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The actual and obvious truth is that in Anglo and Oriental workaholic cultures (e.g. USA, Canada, Taiwan, Hong Kong, Japan, Korea), people live a highly materialistic and segregated lifestyle devoid of human connection. The purpose of their life is business and productivity, and life iself is reduced to a business resource.
The society and media evaluates its citizens in terms of economic
functions (e.g. workers, tax payers, consumers, etc.) rather than as
human beings with spirit, feelings and passion. As a result, people
become machines, stiff and repressed, devoid of romance and passion.
It's bad enough that we are all slaves programmed to "think" that we are
free, but what's sickening is that no matter how obvious the truth is
about anti-sociality in these cultures, you are NOT ALLOWED to mention
or talk about it. Thus truth itself has become a taboo. That's