Is it cheating if the relationship is unofficial?

Is it cheating if the relationship is unofficial?

"I suppose I did not technically cheat as he was never my official
boyfriend. However, we had known each other five years, and we were
supposed to be "in love" and might have been together had it not been
for the distance. I met a guy a few months ago, fell in love with him,
and slept with him. He was actually my first. I am in love with the new
guy, and I want to be with him. I do not regret it, though I regret that
I have deeply hurt the unofficial boyfriend. I would be with the New
Guy as many times (sexually) and as much (just being together) as he
could stand. Basically, I have traded a guy who wanted to marry me yet
had none of the characteristics I value with a guy who has all the
characteristics I value yet loves me only in the "here and now" with no
regard to marriage.

Reason: I just was not happy with the unofficial
boyfriend. I want the New Guy only and want to work on our new
relationship, but the unofficial boyfriend is so heartbroken. It is my
fault, and I want to make it better. But I just don't love him in that
way. I don't know how to help him but I want to so bad
"
by IfICould
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