Today started out badly. The first Saturday in a long time when I woke up - and had no plans to see him. Very sad for me.
I went to my friend's house and she read my tarot cards. These cards showed that there are two men influencing my life. She felt the first was the guy I'm trying to get over. The second was a man poised to bring some good into my life - although it wasn't clear if it was romance, love, or what. The cards really just showed that I'm going through a lot of changes, but that I have what it takes to make it through. As long as I let the change happen, good things should be coming my way.
Jen and I talked for a while today. She's going through some things too. I think it really helped us both to be able to talk about the other's problems - as well as our own. It felt good to just sit with a friend and talk and laugh - and cry (we both did some of that).
So, I left her place and went and applied for a part time job. We'll see what happens - I'd love to have that turn into something. First, I could use the money. Second, I could use the distraction. Third, I just think I need to make a change, to shake my routine up a bit. This could do that for me, while serving the other purposes at the same time.
After that, I went to the mall and got myself dinner and bought a ticket to go to a movie. I sat down, and looked up. Who do I see? The photographer from my wedding. Are you kidding me? I just wanted an evening without reminders of all the ways that I've failed. While I'm still reeling from that - Jen texts me. Our mutual friend, who I used to date (he was my transitional guy after my marriage) is engaged. To the girl he broke up with me to date. Oy.
So, I posted on twitter, asking was it too much to ask to have a hassle-free movie. The guy texted me, to ask what happened this time. I thought that was nice - he's my friend and he was checking on me.
He said to me yesterday that I see things as black&white; that because he didn't feel for me romantically, that means he didn't want me around at all. He doesn't feel that way, and he did want me around. Just not the same way I want to be around. That text proved that. It didn't make me sad, or give me hope, it just showed me that after everything, he still sees me as a good friend who matters. The same way he always saw me. I'm trying to look at that as a positive in my life, and move past the other feelings.
Seeing a movie on my own was part of that. It was something we often did together, and doing things without him is a big part of me reclaiming my life and making myself happy. I need to do that for me. The movie was good - a romantic comedy, which I was afraid would make me cry.
Another reason to be more addicted to your iPhone more than you were five minutes ago—it's what sets you apart from those sex deprived Droid freaks.
According to Match.com's Singles In America survey, 55 percent of iPhone users said they’d had sex at least once per month over the past year. For Android users, it was 51 percent. There's no app for that, folks. No wait, actually there's tons.
Does that annoying couple who can't keep their hands off each other at the dinner table happen to have a TV in their bedroom? Well, here's one more reason to hate them: they're having a sh*tload of sex.
A study found that those who have a television in their room get twice the action than those who do not. The reason, as you may guess, is that they can easily watch something erotic to get them in the mood. Take that, iPads.
"Just one of the guys" translates to "a woman who has lots of sex," says science. But no, she's not sleeping with these guy friends, her active sex life has to do with sexual rivalry.
A study, published in the Journal of Comparative Psychology, showed that men in relationships are more attracted to their partners when they think (even subconsciously) that they could be cheating on them. Go figure.
6. Miami Residents
If you were contemplating making the move to the city where the heat is (really) on, be assured you will be having a lot more sex—especially if you're from Minnesota.
According to Trojan's Degrees Of Pleasure study, Miami residents are having the most sex in the country. At 102 times a year, Miamians are 59 percent more sexually active than residents of Minneapolis-St. Paul. And the fun doesn't stop there—they also reported the nation's longest sex seshes: 35 minutes on average.
Another group who gets it on all the time? Artists and poets, It may not surprise you since artists are more liberal and progressive, but a 2005 study found that artistic communities have 233 percent more sexual partners than people who aren't artists or poets.
Could one of the worst habits for your health also be the secret to an active sex life?
A study found that smokers are 10 percent more sexually active than nonsmokers. And, those who drink and smoke are almost 200 percent more sexually active than those who do neither. Smokers these days are risk-takers and often light up to relax and look sexy—and I guess it's working. Though moving to Miami would be the healthier option.
All those ladies who have height on their list of dealbreakers, do you know what you're missing? Well, lots of sex for starters!
A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine looked at the sex lives of heterosexual men who have steady female partners and found that the lucky dudes getting it on the most were 25-29, less than 172 lbs — and 5 foot 9 or under. See, size does matter. Bow chicka bow wow.
A study found that jews and agnostics are 20 percent more active in the bedroom than Catholics and Protestants, which makes sense because there tends to be more guilt associated with the Christian religions.
Another study found that over 2X as many observant married Jewish women have sex three to six times per week as married women in general. Mazel to that.
John Stamos, delicious yogurt, Santorini—just when you thought the Greeks had it all, science has to make us even more jealous with another fact—they're sex gods and goddesses.
Honestly, who cares about not winning the World Cup when your country can boast that their residents do it more than anyone across the globe!
A Durex survey revealed 87 percent of Greeks surveyed had sex at least once a week. Next up was Brazil (obviously) at 82 percent. As for the USA? We're pretty behind at 53 percent. Womp.