Women want chivalry, romance and equality. Can our men be our equals and heroes?
We hear gender inequality and often think only of the workplace discrepancies. According to a new Harris Interactive Poll, most of us still feel sexism is very much alive, and it's affecting our careers and our love lives.
While 55 percent of men believe things are pretty much equal now, just 32 percent of women would agree. The problem isn't just that we still feel like we're being treated unfairly, although that is a factor, considering that 80 percent of women feel that they don't receive the same pay for the same job and 75 percent feel they are discriminated against when it comes to promotions. The glass ceiling's also taking a toll on our relationships.
The thing is, we want to be treated like equals, both at home and at work, yet many of us feel that in this fight for fairness, romance has taken a back seat. According to the Harris Poll, four in five Americans, say chivalry is dead or at least on its way to becoming extinct. And that's not just the women saying this folks! So the real question we gotta ask is: Can we have romance and equality? In our quest for equality, have we given men the impression that we no longer need them to open doors for us, come to our rescue when there's a big spider that needs squashing, or woo us with flowers and romantic dates?
According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, 33.5 percent of women assuming the bread-winning role in their family. But this doesn't mean we no longer want men to come riding in on that white horse. We still want our partners to be our heroes, even if we're the ones earning the money to keep their horses shod. When She Makes More Money
Spending money on each other isn't about the amount so much as the gesture. According to the Daily Mail, a recent survey found that "50 percent of ladies on a dinner date offer to pay with no intention of actually doing so," expecting the man to foot the bill on dates (and considering it a deal breaker if he doesn't). The study also found that 36 percent of women considered a man picking up the bill to be the "the height of chivalry," and 27 percent believed a man should stand up when a woman leaves the table. And just think about how many of us still enjoy being pursued, even if more and more ladies are making the first move. I Need A Man's Help! Is That Sexist?
While these romantic traditions aren't necessarily for everyone, and sorry, Charlotte York, but not all women "just want to be rescued," enough of us still want to have our cake and eat it too. We may want to eradicate sexism, but we don't want to kill the chivalry and romance. And it seems like guys are on the same page. Finding that balance between romance and equality may be a modern day relationship dilemma, but we're sure it can have a happy ending.
But what do you think: Does it have to be one or the other or can we have gender equality and romance too?
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