Advice: 9 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Marriage

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Women reveal what marriage has taught them about relationships, and what wish they'd known before.

5. There's no place like home. "I wish I'd known what it was going to be like to live with an extrovert. When you first get to know someone, you are drawn to his personality, especially in social situations. Living with a man full time and seeing how he is different in home situations can be very interesting." – Laura, 42, Homemaker, Married 18 Years

6. It's harder than it looks. "I wish I'd known that when the thrill of young love fades, marriage is a great deal of work. You figure out after a few years that you don't necessarily feel the same way about the person. If the marriage is going to survive, there will need to be a lot of effort from both people." – Beatrice, 63, Doula, Married 42 Years

 

7. Everything changes. "I wish I'd known the changing roles that we would play in the marriage. You can talk about what you will do when you get married, but some things just change over time, especially when you have children." – Jeanne, 38, Teacher, Married 16 Years 3 Ways To Keep Connected After Having Kids

8. Family matters. "It would have been nice to know that being a step-mom was going to be different in marriage than it was when we were just dating. I guess it is true that when you get married, you are actually marrying a whole family in addition to your spouse." – Brianne, 26, Career Counselor, Married 2 Years

9. Hindsight is 20/20. "I wish I'd known then what I know now. There are a lot of things that you learn over years that would have been helpful to know earlier. But, I guess that is just the marriage is. Learning how to live with one another is part of the process." – Rebecca, 53, Human Resources Director, Married 29 Years

Married readers, what do you wish you'd known before you got hitched? Single gals, what questions do you have for married ladies?