In his new book, Gunn's Golden Rules, Tim Gunn reveals that he hasn't had sex "in decades." He remarks, I wanted to say that, whether you're gay or straight, you can live a celibate life and be perfectly satisfied and happy." Learning this made me unexpectedly sad.
Not because I'm a proponent of "go out, sleep with everyone on the world! Embrace your inner Samantha! Have a sexy epileptic seizure style twitch fest in front of some fundamentalist Muslims!" I'm not. I often think of a friend who told me that when it came to sex, she really believed that "most women would rather just go out to a nice restaurant." And in a way it's true. Hell, it doesn't even have to be a nice restaurant, a peanut butter and jelly sandwich is better than mediocre sex.
But good sex? Great sex? There's nothing better than that.
Maybe this wouldn't bother me if Tim Gunn just said he derived no enjoyment from sex. Then I guess I could say, "that's cool, I'm amazed the peanut butter and jelly sandwiches haven't taken a toll on your physique, but that's cool." But he says that he had a romantic relationship over 20 years ago that ended wth "a betrayal so wounding" he never risked romantic involvement again. That isn't the same as being asexual.
I want Tim Gunn to be having great sex. He seems like he deserves it.
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Written by Jennifer Wright for The Gloss.