From "don't sleep together too soon" to "sow your wild oats before settling down," society is full of mixed messages about sex, love, dating and the intersection of the three. To get help deciding which advice to heed and which to skip, I asked scientists to explain some of their discoveries about human sexual behavior (yes, scientists do study such things). It turns out that their findings are often the exact opposite of what we tend to believe.
Here are 7 potentially surprising sex facts everyone should know:
1. Get frisky with 12 people before settling down. Mathematicians have actually crunched the numbers on this, and while it's too complex to explain in full, here's the gist: When it comes to picking a great mate, your chances of picking right improve the more people you meet—up to a point. Settle down with your first or second sweetheart, and the fact that you have so few points of comparison means the odds are high that you may be selling yourself short. Mow through thirty potential soul mates, though, and you likely have passed over someone who could actually make you happy were you to drop your pickiness. The right balance, it seems, is to carry on a romance with twelve people, then settle down with the very next person who floats your boat.
2. Men ogle women's faces more than their bodies. When women strip down, they're often worried that men are eyeing their thunder thighs. Scientists tracked men's eyes to see where they land on naked photos. The result? Men spend the majority of their time looking at women's faces—not their bare bodies. Guys may not even realize they're doing this, but they are! Scientists theorize that the reason for this is that women's faces contain clearer cues to their arousal levels than their bodies. Men, in other words, want to know that a woman is enjoying herself in bed—that's far more important to them than whether she looks porn-star perfect. So relax! Could This DVD Help You Have Better Sex?
3. Size really doesn't matter. Men will be relieved to know that the size of their penis doesn't impact women's ratings of their performance in bed. Scientists know this because they've actually measured hundreds of male volunteers' packages, then compared their dimensions to the total number of orgasms each delivered in the sack. They found that big and small models alike give the same number of orgasms. 3 Ways To "Size" A Man Up
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