Should I Tell Him How I Feel?

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Should I tell him now, wait, or just forget it altogether?

I've known my friend for about two years. We're in college and have pretty much been joined at the hip since freshman orientation. The thing is, I've really liked him for the entire time I've known him. The longer I waited to tell him how I felt the more nervous I got about doing so. He's a really great friend and I'm worried about losing him. Recently, he told me that he wants to transfer to another college as soon as next semester. This school is very far away, not even within any sort of driving distance. Now that it looks like our days might be numbered, I'm just wondering if I should just suck it up and tell him how I feel and, if it goes well, how to make a decent transition out of the friend zone. Should I even try or just enjoy our friendship for what it is? —The Friend

Sure, tell him. If he's moving far away, what do you really have to lose at this point? Besides, he hasn't said for sure he's transferring to another school — or that he's even been accepted yet; it sounds like he simply "wants" to transfer. Maybe your confession will change his plans; maybe not. The best thing you can do is expect that your revelation won't change anything and he'll move as planned. If his new school isn't even driving distance away from where you are now, it would probably be very difficult to maintain a long-distance relationship. More difficult hurdles have been jumped, of course, but you should probably prepare yourself for the likelihood of nothing coming from sharing your feelings except the relief of finally getting it off your chest and saving yourself from wondering forever "what could have happened" if you'd only been open. And that, TF, is certainly worth spilling the beans. The Frisky: 15 Signs You're More Than Just Friends 

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