I turned to several parenting bloggers to get their opinions on where to draw the line.
Heather Sobieralski of My Mama Mojo has this to say about her openness when she writes:
I started to blog as a complement to my life coaching website. I figured there were so many dang life coaches out there how would one choose? For me, I feel like I need to know someone... before trusting them. In the world of motherhood this is particularly important as so many of us go around with our 'sunshine and roses' masks and are really unhappy with our day-to-day lives. My writing is an attempt to strip off those masks [and serve] as an invitation to get real. I am not perfect. I do not know it all. I am on a journey just like every other mom.
Danny Evans of Dad Gone Mad mentions a similar appreciation of honesty in writing:
I think my toilet-paper-thin boundaries were a hallmark of my early days as a blogger. Although I never used my kids' names online, virtually everything else was fair game. I blogged about my vasectomy, about childbirth, about the contents of my children's diapers, about my virulent hatred for Barney, and ultimately about my own experience with clinical depression. I use my writing to explore what happens in my own head, and I think my readers value that honesty.
When I asked for his thoughts on whether or not bloggers should get permisson for the things they write about their children online, Evans said:
Given the fact that I'm their guardian—their father—the issue of consent falls to me (and my wife, obviously). I don't post pictures of my kids online because that's just a safety issue, and I've seen good friends get burned. And I don't use their names, as I said. But I think some of the stories I tell about them are universal, particularly when it comes to cute or unusual things they've done growing up.
I agree with Evans and Sobieralski, for the most part. Honesty in writing is key, and so much about parenting is universal. But as I remember my own childhood—as a girl who was easily embarrassed by her parents without the aid of the Internet—I get the feeling that I'll end up censoring myself anyway. My husband was always a willing participant. But my children won't know any better, at least at the beginning. And this makes me squeamish. How Is Your Marriage Different From Your Mother's?
Perhaps this is another parenting decision we'll have to make together.
Where do you think the line should be drawn when it comes to mommy blogging?