Is stinginess the new sexiness? Our two cents on how financial savvy affects romance.
Ladies, we've all heard that money can't buy you love; apparently, it can buy you sex appeal. The NY Daily News reports that 61 percent of men surveyed describe blind dates who save money as "sexy" and "smart." How To Tackle Money Matters In Relationships
The message here is a refreshing one, given that ads for beauty products, and even makeover shows like What Not To Wear, suggest that cultivating sex appeal will drain your pockets. Moreover, the study says that 68 percent of men polled think that women are better than they are at managing household funds. Presumably, a woman's thrifitiness (or lack thereof) on a first date indicates how she handles more important financial responsibilities. On some level, and after a few weeks of dating, a guy could connect her personal spending habits to how she would handle a shared apartment with him or even joint funds in a marriage.
Granted, being frugal is not the same as being cheap, so don't fill your closet with last season's knockoffs just yet. We can't put words into the mouths of the men polled by ING Direct, but we're willing to bet that they are attracted to women who are economical, not stingy. Women who are financially savvy not only save money, but they put that money toward an intelligent purpose. Why Smart Women Don't Marry Money
Stinginess is buying cheap clothes, even when you can afford better, at the expense of quality. Sure, it's hard to resist a blouse that could be mistaken for a designer piece at a tenth of its price, but what's so sexy about missing buttons and broken hemlines? While being economical can mean buying a $20 cocktail dress that you'll only wear once, it can also mean blowing hundreds of dollars on a pair of heels you'll wear often because their make prevents bunions. Romance On A Budget
In the end, financial savvy combines knowing what you can afford, what you're willing to spend money on, and how you will invest the money that you save. Plus, our attitudes toward money reflect our attitudes toward dating. Blowing your paychecks on shallow purchases is like developing an attachment to every guy who shows a vague interest in dating you. You don't want to place all your hopes and dreams on someone if you're unsure of his commitment to you. At the same time, you don't want to be too stingy with your heart and avoid falling in love for fear of getting hurt. Middle ground prevails in spending and relationships, alike.
How has your attitude toward money affected your love life?