3. Woman on top. "This is the position that most consistently leads to female orgasm. It really allows a woman to take a lot of control during sex, and guys love it because they don't have to work that hard," he says. It's also the best position for couples to try if your man is, uh, a quick shooter. "If he suffers from premature ejaculation, then this position is great. He should spend a lot of time orally stimulating her, getting her close to the brink, before she gets on top." Even if he still comes first, Kerner says that, depending upon a man's age and lifestyle, he should still be able to maintain some stiffness post-orgasm. Some men can stay hard for up to two minutes.
4. Side by Side. This is another position that's great for intimacy due to the spooning nature of side-by-side sex. "This is a very comfortable choice as you can synchronize movements and women have more ability to control the guy's penis, using it as a sex toy." While hugging each other, he says, it may behoove couples to try some Tantric breathing techniques, which help put off premature ejaculation. However, if a guy feels as if he's about to come, "it's easy for him to pull out and press the head of the penis. This is good for prolonged lovemaking." Tantric Sex 101
5. Doggy style. While not the most romantic position, doggy style allows a guy to achieve a lot of friction and deep thrusting. If your man takes forever to come, doggy style might be a great position to end with. "A lot of guys with delayed ejaculation have gotten used to their hand or suffer from side effects from medication, but doggy style all but assures orgasm due to the high degree of friction and penetration." Guys also like this one because it makes them feel powerful and animalistic. It's less like making love and more like f*cking.
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6.) Reverse cowgirl. By riding a man backwards, women get a healthy dose of G-spot stimulation. It's also easy for her to manually stimulate her clitoris in this position, too. The reverse cowgirl works just fine for men, Kerner says. Guys really only need two things in order to have successful sex: friction for the penis, and pressure.
7.) Standing up, against the wall, outside the bedroom, location sex. Every couple has to try location/thrill-seeking sex at least once. While it's unlikely she'll orgasm bent over, ears primed for the rustling of leaves during a hiking quickie, the thrill and passion of spontaneous sex is a must for all couples.
Ian Kerner is a sex and relationships counselor. He's written six books and recently launched goodinbed.com, a destination for users with sex questions who want to interact with professionals.
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