In the midst of wedding planning? Fighting with your family may be unavoidable.
Wedding planning can be stressful as hell, and it's inevitable that—at some point or another—you'll end up fighting with your friends and family. Why? It has nothing to do with picking and choosing wedding vendors. In the end, one DJ is the same as another. And it has even less to do with time. With most couples planning their weddings at least one year in advance, it's easy to space out all the items on your wedding planning to-do list so that you don't break down into a weeping pile of taffeta and confetti. Nay. The number one cause of arguments during wedding planning? The ones you love (and who presumably love you). Thanks a lot, friends and family.
Below, we map out the five biggest points of contention when it comes to planning a wedding with your loved ones, why they're such a big deal, and how you can handle them without losing your ever-loving mind.
1. The guest list. If you can make it through this, you can make it through anything, including the painful labor you'll eventually have to suffer through if you decide to have children with your future husband. Yes. The pain is comparable. What's the big deal? Consider this: for every name you add to your guest list, you also have to add an additional $150+ to the cost of your reception venue, to cover the cost of their meal. Not only that, but each additional guest means another person you have to greet during your reception, which takes precious time away from eating, dancing and catching up with other guests. Is it any wonder that some of us try to distance ourselves from our not-so-close friends in the year leading up to the wedding so we don't feel obligated to invite them? (C'mon, you know you've done it.) On top of possibly losing friends, you may end up alienating family members as well. Your mother will want to invite an entire table's worth of her best friends. Your mother-in-law will want to invite her second and third (and twenty-fifth) cousins. You will agonize over whether or not to allow children under the age of 12. There will be tears and recriminations, causing you to secretly book a wedding venue with a small guest limit so that you can then dramatically announce: Sorry guys! You can each only invite 50 people! How you like them apples?
Our advice? Yes. Book that small venue. Give each person a limit on how many people they can invite. And remind them that this is your day, and that you want to celebrate with the people you love most in the world. How To Be A Stress-Free Wedding Guest