On last night's season premiere of "My Boys"—which I watched after back-to-back amazeballs episodes of "True Blood" and "Mad Men"—there was this interesting subplot about how much friends' opinions matter when it comes to relationships. The character of Kenny is dating this chick Stephanie, and Kenny's friend Mike is really disbelieving that their relationship is genuine and for real. The whole thing got me thinking a bit about whether or not it actually matters what your friends and family think about your significant other. Should Kenny and Stephanie be bothering to try and "prove" anything to Mike? For this edition of "He Said/She Said," I've brought in my brother-from-another-mother, John DeVore, to share his male perspective on the matter. Check out his thoughts and mine, after the jump. The Frisky: Girl Talk: I Hid My Interracial Relationship From My Parents
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If I found proof that my best friend's new girlfriend was an organ-harvesting alien lizard woman, I'd feel compelled to tell him. But I'd need proof, like a freezer full of human heads. Absent such dramatic information, when it comes to my friends and the women they date, I mind my own business. And I like that favor to be returned.
I care about the happiness of my friends and family. I suppose I also care about the happiness of my coworkers, but only because "happiness" usually means "Bluetooth Phil doesn't whine to me about his cold empty life in the office kitchen while I nuke a bowl of pasta." But I know better to stick my nose in lives without being invited first. In my experience, people who express unwarranted opinions on other people's lives are bored with their own. And if you really care about whom your sibling or best pal is hooking up with, ask this question to yourself, "Am I just projecting my own desires and personal frustrations onto the canvas of my dear ol' chum's life?" Wait! I'll answer for you! Yes. Then there's this other little point: it just doesn't matter what I think about other people's relationships. OMG, get over yourself.