The Blame Game

How often do you engage in
blame? 
How often do you point the finger at another person or circumstance for your
experience? 

To allow love and success into our life we must take 100% responsibility for what
we are experiencing, for the results we are having, for the choices we make and
own our thoughts and feelings that inevitably get stirred up. When you engage
in the blame game you give away your personal and creative power. 

Blaming is pointing out there instead of here, when you find yourself in pain
and uncomfortable experiences. Blame involves shifting the responsibility for
where you are and what you are experiencing within onto someone or something
else, rather than accepting responsibility for your role in the
experience. It blocks being more intimately acquainted with you. It keeps
you from being seen, heard and known on a personal level and blocks you from
full self expression to be loved and beloved by another.

The Blame game sets up a dis-empowering dance between you and another AND you
and your experience of the world. In this dance you create a hopeless and
helpless cycle that makes it nearly impossible to find your way out. As
well as, perpetuates rescue fantasies. Who wants that? No one on a
conscious level. 

There is a fine line between blame and acknowledging the pain, the problem and
your thoughts and feelings. The value of acknowledging the reality as you are
experiencing it within is to help you to identify where you are and where you
want to be. To help you know yourself more deeply which opens space within.

To free yourself from the blame game you must be willing to feel better and be
solution focused by any means necessary.  For example, you acknowledge you
are hurt or angry, but are you willing to forgive, even if forgiving means
acknowledging you made a mistake, a poor choice and letting go of resentment.
You acknowledge you are disappointed because you keep attracting guys you are
not attracted to but don't blame them or the world and cling to a limiting
belief that you'll never find someone you like and decide to stop dating and
focusing your energy elsewhere (that's reactive not an empowered and conscious
choice). You acknowledge you are confused that you are not having the sales or
generating prospects despite all your marketing and mindset work but you don't
pull the covers over your head, refusing to come out until someone or something
changes so you don't have to feel the confusion and disappointment or
hurt.  Rather you seek out knowledge, support, mentoring, be and do
something different to have a different experience.

My BLAME game challenge for you is...