Another scenario, I date a man for five years whom I want to marry but he refuses to propose. (In my opinion, when you’re over the age of 25 — which I am not, so that’s why I’m using this as an example –, five years is a long time to date a man without getting engaged.) When I finally get Mr. Commitment Phobe to admit that he is never going to marry me and I admit that I don’t want to be in a relationship without the prospect of a wedding, I decide to end the relationship. My friends all say “well at least you learned something”. Then I meet another guy and we date for two years and he hasn’t mentioned marriage. Do I stick around knowing that this relationship has three whole years before becoming a carbon copy of the relationship I just walked out of? Do I ask him how he feels about marriage thus throwing a ridiculous amount of pressure onto my current situation as a result of not throwing enough pressure on my last one? Do I refuse to waste another five years when I know what the outcome will be? Do I everreally know what the outcome will be?
That’s the thing about learning lessons. I don’t really know when or how to implement what I’ve learned.