Besides, in school they give you a transcript to prove you learned your lesson. In relationships, how do I know if I learned my lesson? There’s not exactly a diploma for it (unless you call a marriage certificate a diploma, but then what can be said of divorce papers?)
If marriage does not result and I am still in the dating game, can I say I leaned my lesson when I stop meeting the same type of man over and over again? But then that begs the question: Am I meeting the same type of man over and over again or am I just finding similarities because I am looking for them? Is the proof that I learned my lesson with the last guy evident by my running away at the first sign of similarities with the new guy?
For instance, hypothetically speaking, if I had an awful breakup with a guy because he slept with the mother of his child does “learning my lesson” mean never again dating a man with kids? Or never dating a man who is close with the mother of his kid? Or never dating a man with a kid the same age as the kid in the other relationship? If I date this new guy who has a child despite the drama with the old guy who also had a child, did I not learn my lesson in the first relationship? Most would say, of course that’s not the case because people are different and what I encountered with Man A doesn’t necessarily mean I will encounter the same thing with Man B. BUT, let’s say Man B does end up sleeping with the mother of his child. Can it be said that I didn’t learn my lesson from Man A and thus I repeated it with Man B? If that is the case, WHAT is the lesson and HOW do I prevent myself from doing the same thing again?