What Does “Learn a Lesson” In Relationships Mean?

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 What Does “Learn a Lesson” In Relationships Mean?


I think Sex and the City’s Carrie Bradshaw said it best:

 

People say ‘Everything happens for a reason.’ These people are usually women. And these women are usually sorting through a break-up. It seems that men can get out of a relationship without even a ‘Goodbye,’ But, apparently, women have to either get married or learn something.

I completely agree. This whole “learning lessons from failed relationships” annoys the crap out of me. And when well-meaning people attempt to nurse my hurt feelings with the “at least you learned something” phrase, I want to slap them. Yeah I learned something. I learned that if you don’t dump a 10-gallon cooler filled with “Que Juice” on a man who just told you nonchalantly (in the middle of a crowded party) that he slept with your friend then you will regret it.  Immensely.

Seriously, what is with the lessons learned stuff? I don’t fall in love to learn lessons. I spent 15 years in school, endured countless hours in the library and acquired tens of thousands of dollars in student loan debt to learn lessons. I’m done with school. I’m done learning lessons.