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Can We Still Be Friends?

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Can We Still Be Friends?

So somehow Mr. Hot and Cold and I have bounced back in our friendship. Almost like my confession never happened. But it did. That's why we don't look at each other the same way. In fact finally saw him look at me with something I have yet to really up to this point -- lust.

He seems to be trying to make up for hurting me. Guess this means he knew he was leading me on. Or perhaps a radical thought, he likes me, just not enough to be with me right now because -- as he said -- he feels he has nothing to offer anyone.

Of course I told this to a friend who says I need to go back and read "He's Just Not That Into You." Well, that I get. But when I let him go and backed away, he missed me. It was barely a week before he reached out and tried to get our friendship back on track. Being more attentive than he ever was. Now of course I realize that does not mean he thinks he made a mistake and could have feelings after all. But I am scratching my head about a Facebook post he put on his wall. Lyrics from one of our favorite bands -- "I want you now. I want you heart and soul." Hidden messages in Facebook posts. Well, that was my move which could be why he did it. But then again it could be nothing.

If it is nothing, then so be it. We will just be friends. But as I mentioned in the last post, it won't be the same. I want to find love, which means spending less time with him. Something he has been fighting since the awkward email. Sort of has me wondering if he can handle seeing me with someone else. Can we still be friends when that happens? I hope so. In spite of everything, we just get each other. Neither one of wants to lose that I think.