The New Way To Break Up: Be Kind

4. Fewer legal hurdles to divorce. New York recently approved no-fault divorces, as had 49 other states before it. Gone are the days where only one of you has to shoulder the blame for a failed nuptial. While it doesn't erase the pain of a split, it definitely eases it. Pointing accusatory fingers doesn't exactly make for an easy friendship to follow and, as the Buffalo News reported, putting "two people who have already gone separate ways through the financial and emotional gauntlet is tiresome and eventually wears the parties and their families down. The end result can often be emotionally scarred children and embittered adults." Can You Stay Friends With An Exes' Mom?

Ultimately, who wants to be bitter? You've just ended a relationship with someone you were sharing your life with, someone who knew just how you liked your morning coffee or to TiVo episodes of Glee when you were working late. They've become more than a boyfriend or husband, but a best friend, and losing that special connection hurts. We can love our exes without being in love with them. It doesn't mean we're still attached—it means we're mature. 

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No matter what advice or trend you follow, the two of you are unlikely to go from coupled to best friends overnight. Be patient. Allow yourselves time to heal. Get used to not being romantically connected, so that you can eventually forge a new, platonic relationship. Why You Should Remain Facebook Friends With An Ex

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Readers, are you close with your exes? What are some ways to make that possible?