The New Way To Break Up: Be Kind

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The breakup has grown up! 4 signs being kind pays in breakups today.

Landon Donovan doesn't only score points in World Cup soccer games, but in the world of relationships, as well. Although he's no longer married to actress Bianca Kajlich, People reported that—during his post-game interview—Donovan gave his ex-wife a shout-out and blew her a kiss.

Huh?

"I wouldn't be where I was on that day without her. I wanted to share that moment with her, which was really special," said Donovan.

Does he know something we don't? Because typically, when it comes to exes, we don't do shout-outs; we block them on Facebook, and we don't serve our exes with good news but with lawsuits. It's crazy—nay, impossible—to stay friends with an ex once the relationship has ended. Right?

Wrong. Remaining friends post-breakup, even post-divorce, is doable. Breakups aren't always the three-headed beasts they once were. In today's society, we have a tendency to date longer and later into life. A breakup at age 35 has the potential to be more amicable than those we experienced at age 20. Why? For starters, the chances are that we've lived through one (or five) before. Plus, we are increasingly more comfortable with the idea that one person forever might not be our future. We'd like that, for the most part, but we've seen enough couples part ways only to become happier post-split to know that sometimes a breakup is, indeed, for the best. It seems society is catching onto the idea that a breakup doesn't have to be filled with screaming matches, hate and unbridled anger. Still don't believe us? Read on.

1. Breakup gifts. Students at a Taiwanese university recently created breakup gifts, meant to be exchanged when parting ways in order to ease the pain and anger that often follow splits.

2. Deliberate, gentle breakups are en vogue. Our friends at Lemondrop crafted as a breakup plan that aims to "lay the groundwork for a smooth breakup." There's a better chance of staying close to an ex if you're, well, nice while breaking up.

3. Taking the dirty out of divorce. Just last month, we published an essay from a young divorcee who celebrates her first marriage and its demise because, as she puts it, "Divorce shouldn't make you depressed; it's being unhappily married that does that." In Defense Of Starter Marriage