2. Non-demand touching. Intimacy is about more than full-on intercourse, and it could be that the anxiety you're experiencing due to the recent lack of sex has caused you to forget this. If you're feeling so much pressure to want sex that you're not allowing yourself to relax and enjoy the rest of it, we have a problem. Why not take sex temporarily off the table? Indulge in a no-pressure makeout session, hump the heck out of each other, or just allow yourself to relearn the way intimacy with your partner can feel. Explore each other's bodies, using different types of touch, and communicate with each other about what feels good, and what doesn't. All that touching and rubbing and caressing could quickly get you hot again, and at a time when you're not expecting it, or actively seeking it out. Short On Time? 10 Ways To Squeeze In More Sex
3. Get your heart racing. And I don't mean between the sheets. Giving yourself an adrenaline rush spikes the brain's natural amphetamines—dopamine and norepinephrin—thereby making you more aroused. So do something unexpected and exxxtreme together, like hang gliding or jet skiing. Or do something less exxxtreme, but still new to the two of you. Take a wine making or dance class. Go for a spontaneous drive to anywhere. Simply put: have fun together.
4. Take care of yourself. We mentioned above that things such as exhaustion and stress could adversely affect your libido. So it's only logical that getting plenty of sleep would help it. Other stress-busters? Regular exercise. Sunshine. Laughter. A healthy diet. And—Oh! What a coincidence!—sex. If your low libido makes the idea of sex unappealing, try bringing in some outside help: sex toys, lubricant or a sexual arousal oil like the one from our partners at Zestra, who are offering YourTango readers a free sample—click on one of the ads on this page to find out how you can get yours. 1 In 4 Americans Are Too Tired For Sex
5. Put it at the top of your to-do list. Finally, be sure to make sex a priority. Because it's so easy to let it fall to the bottom of your list and, as we mentioned above, practice makes perfect. If you have to, schedule it in, just as you would any other doctor appointment or business meeting. Because it's that important. Scheduled sex may feel contrived at first but, soon, it will be something to look forward to. And, just as with training wheels, there will come a time when you won't need that schedule anymore. Because you'll be bumping like bunny rabbits. Poll: Are You Satisfied With Your Libido?
How do you get yourself in the mood?