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Girls Love Musicians and Married Musicians Love


My wife and I have been married for a year. We both work
in an environment where we are away from each other a lot. Distance is
something I thought I got over since I found someone I wanted to be
with. I'm in a band, and we travel a lot. We went to this one town, and I
noticed this one girl in the audience for our set. If you've never been
on stage before, it is kind of intoxicating to have a girl stare at you
the WHOLE show. After the set, she approached me and we started
talking. One beer lead to another, and that lead to something else. I
took this girl back to my hotel room. Deed was done. I regret the
decision I made. I knew it was a mistake as soon as I woke up the next
morning. I don't want to wake up to anyone else but my wife. I messed

Reason: I was drunk and lonely.

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