I'm in the middle of nine months of paid paternity leave here in Sweden, so I'm not your traditional working dad. Plus, my wife and I don't fit into traditional gender roles. I dress and feed the children. I pick up toys and spend hours in the sandbox. She pays the bills. She talks to the doctors. Why One Dad Embraced A Reversal Of Gender Roles
Even at our little summer cottage, we are all mixed up. We actually get into fights over who gets to mow the lawn. We bicker over who gets to shovel sand. She fishes; I take naps with the baby.
So do I insist that today is the day I mow the entire lawn? That seems weird. Do I just try and lay in the hammock? You know, she gives me that time already. When you co-parent like we do, it's not such a burden to share sleep-ins and naps and hammock time. I can't ask her to give me fancy gadgets. Choosing time and family over career and income may be the best thing I ever did, but it's also had its unfortunate effects on the bank account.
In the end, I'm not asking for anything. She didn't either for Mother's Day.
It's like we've transcended the whole concept a bit, at least in these early years. So since we devote a little bit of each day to each other, I will gladly settle for hugs, 10 extra minutes in bed and a little extra coffee as I feed the baby breakfast. 10 Father's Day Gift Ideas