Name: SurferGirl | | Location: Bronx , NY |Question: Your last post on "compromising" got me to thinking about a recent crush -- and how he's slowly crushed me over the past week. "J" and I were introduced several weeks ago by a mutual friend. He's a never-married single dad, 45, well-educated, good job, sweet, reasonably attractive. I'm never-married, no kids, also well-educated, good job, kind, fun-loving and generally considered very attractive for my age. J and I texted&talked on the phone for about a week, and it seemed like we had great chemistry. He was slow to ask me out, and when he did, he wanted to have our first date over lunch -- with his kid. I thought that was kind of weird, so I said, "yeah, sure," but was glad when he didn't follow up on the day he'd suggested. (In retrospect, red flags #1 and #2.) He did call a couple of days later, apologizing for not having called, and then asked me out for last Friday night (w/o the kid). We went out to dinner, had a great time, talked and smooched a bit at my place afterward, and he left saying, "give me a call this weekend." So, I called him Sunday and left a voicemail. He texted me Monday from work, saying that he had a great time and couldn't wait to hang out again, and I texted back and forth a bit, finishing up with "Call me when you're at lunch." He responded, "OK." I proceeded to not hear from him all day Monday. Or Tuesday. Or Wednesday. I finally got a text from him tonight asking, "How u doing", to which I responded, "OK... been wondering if you'd been kidnapped by a pack of wolves...<smiley face>". He then texted back, "What do you mean by that", so I pick up the phone and call him; rather than picking up the phone, he let it go to voicemail. I left him a message saying calmly, "Hey, I just wanted to call b/c texting can give the wrong impression. What I meant was just that I'd expected to hear from you Monday, and it's now Thursday, which is really not a big deal, so I would still love to chat if you want. Talk to you soon." No response. Sooooo, my question is: was I wrong to send the "wolves" text? Are women wrong when they express even the SLIGHTEST bit of disappointment when men say they're going to do something, then don't do it -- and then don't even apologize for it? This is not the first time this has happened to me, so I am beginning to wonder if I should stop being honest in expressing my feelings and instead try to be a "Rules girl" this summer? If I'd followed the Rules, I wouldn't have even responded to the text. It's just that I really did/do like this guy, and hate to play games in general, but wonder how much rude behavior does a girl/should a girl swallow without speaking up (even in a lite tone)? Part of me feels that if I'm willing to accept the "baggage" of his kid and (allegedly be-atchie) babymama, can't I at the very least be able to expect some common courtesy / maturity (like, "sorry I didn't call when I said I would") that should ostensibly derive from that "life experience"? Or, should I compromise my standards for the sake of "nabbing&q
Megan Fox= had a huge and unhideable Marilyn Monroe portrait on her arm. Had. She had it lasered off. It's a shame, since it was actually decently done, but she said it was full of negative energy, due to the bombshell's mental issues. Ridic.