Sometimes, spontaneity in the bedroom is not the best way to start a new relationship. Plan your next date with the expectation that there will be a sleep over instead. There’s nothing wrong with thinking ahead about the next rendezvous. This gives you the opportunity to pack away your favorite lingerie, and scented candles to set up throughout the room. Having a vision of the evening could give you the boost of confidence you need to make it a successful night.
Laugh at Yourself
Humor is often the best solution when you’re in a situation that feels uncomfortable. Gavatorta recommends finding a reason to laugh at yourself. He says that self-deprecating humor shows strength because “those who are willing to poke a bit of fun at themselves are the ones who really feel most confident.” Often times, laughter becomes an icebreaker and can leave both people feeling more vulnerable and at ease.
When discomfort or lack of confidence is getting in the way of having a healthy relationship, it could be time to seek help from a counselor or therapist who specializes in these types of issues. By figuring out the root of the problem, it can help lead to better communication, not just with a lover but with your family and friends as well.