Under the Cover Jitters: Find Out What to do When

By Lori Bizocco for SingleEdition.com

Many single women complain that the biggest factor preventing them from having a healthy, long-term relationship is lack of communication or openness with a potential partner before they take the relationship to the bedroom.  Being intimate before getting to know one another or prior to discussing the couple’s long-term potential, can bring out a whole set of fears and behaviors that leave people scarred or afraid to get involved with someone again.  Whether it’s sexual performance or emotional abandonment, the rules are the same; a healthy relationship has a better chance of success when established communication patterns are in place.

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“Being open and honest about your expectations and fears needs to happen from the very beginning of the relationship,” says Steve Gavatorta, Master Communication Coach and creator of The Reach Out Approach.  Remember, it’s more difficult to see a person and watch their body language in the dark, so you need to know the person well or help guide them verbally to your thoughts and feelings. 

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However, this issue isn’t limited to those who just started dating.  According to divorced couples, the number one reason that their marriage fails is also due to poor communication.  If you need to boost your confidence level when the lights go out, here are a few ideas that may help:

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