The bad economy has people scaling back on expense for all kinds of festivities, including birthday parties, graduation parties, and even weddings. Despite these cutbacks, party planners and caterers have shared with us that one area that still has ladies breaking out their checkbooks is the Divorce Party. So just why do women want to throw a big bash in honor of what we usually think of as a traumatic event?
Is the shock keeping women from thinking clearly or are they just looking for a way to start spending a big, fat divorce settlement? No matter what the reasons, these parties are cropping up everywhere whether the divorce being celebrated was amicable, ugly or somewhere in between. Here are our favorite reasons that women have shared with LuvemOrLeavem for why they decided to throw a divorce party.
Blowing Off Steam/Catharsis - Divorces that are particularly ugly and drawn out often result in all sorts of pent up emotions. We've nicknamed these parties the "Hooray it's over party" because these women were as happy to be done with the divorce proceedings as they were to be done with their ex-husbands. The women who threw these type of parties had the wildest stories to share, and several sent us videos from these parties featuring wedding dresses being set ablaze and phallus shaped
cakes being cut into very tiny pieces.
At first glance, I thought these parties were over the top until I read the stories of just how ugly some of these divorces had turned. After reading a story about an ex husband who fought to get the wedding china only to send it back to his ex wife smashed into mere fragments, I could understand why she felt gleeful in the video where she stuffed her marriage license down the drain and turned on the garbage disposal. Many of these women expressed that having a night of ranting about their ex was cathartic and just what they needed to start parting with all that pent up anger.
A Show of Sisterhood - The most common divorce party stories that we received fell into a category that we dubbed "the sisterhood party." The focus of these parties was to let the newly divorced woman know that she is not alone. It’s important for women to know that they still have a support system after their lives have changed so drastically, and although there was still a little ex bashing, friendship was definitely the theme of the night.