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6 Ways Couples Can Rediscover Erotic Sex

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For some couples tender intimacy precludes passionate, erotic sex. How to rediscover lust.

5. Have a food fight! If you can't stand the mess, put some plastic on the floor first. Take off your clothes, and gather some sensual foods like strawberries and melted chocolate. Dip the strawberries, and feed them to each other. Draw or write on your partner's body with fingers covered in chocolate or fruit sauce, and ask your partner to guess what you drew or wrote. Then, lick the sweet stuff off your partner's skin. If you want to throw food or spray whipped cream at each other, feel free!

6. Teasing is a great way to build that delicious feeling of lust, and it can also give way to a wonderful laugh-fest. Take off your clothes, and lie down or stand together. Walk around your partner running your hands slowly just above his or her skin. Start with the face and neck and work your way down. Occasionally allow your breath to tickle your partner's skin as well. Do this until you're breathing heavily and can't wait to make love.

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Intense passion and loving intimacy can co-exist, but most couples struggle to merge erotic sex with tender love. Women don't want to feel objectified to the absence of caring, and couples get bored if their sex lives are completely devoid of heat.

Here are some things you can try to merge tenderness and sexual heat. As you try the exercises, practice seeing your partner as someone you love who also deserves to feel the intensity of your desire and lust. Allow these exercises to move into intense passion. Spicing Up Your Sex Life

What starts as gentle play can easily become deliciously hot, but you have to be willing. Don't take any of the exercises too seriously, however. Playfulness is always welcome as long as you don't make fun of your partner.

1. Experiment with a light touch on non-sexual parts of the body, such as the palms of the hands, the neck, the face, and the thighs. Take turns, and concentrate on the love you feel for your partner, allowing your arousal to rise naturally from your feelings of affection. Occasionally look into each other's eyes, and giggle if the urge strikes. Continue to touch until you feel like you can't stand it unless you make love. Couples often disconnect from both love and lust because they never give their passion time to build to a sense of urgency. 

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2. Everyone knows that massages are a great way to get turned on, but you can also use them to feel closer to one another. Use scented oil, which will increase the sensuality factor, and connect to the beauty of your partner's body by closing your eyes. You can even imagine that you're a sculptor creating this body in clay. As you rub, tell your partner what you love about his or her body. Here are examples: "I love the way your hip curves right here" or "The muscles in your arms feel so strong." The Beginner's Guide To Sensual Massage