Career and Financial Stability
When we first got hitched, Michael had been at the same company for seven and a half years—and was miserable. I, meanwhile, decided to rely on my new husband's health insurance and steady salary, leave my full-time job in publishing and make a go of freelancing. The ensuing years were tumultuous, to say the least. Now, we're both happy and bringing in decent incomes, and we feel confident that we can support not only ourselves, but a child as well. These days, true job security doesn't exist, and your financial responsibilities as a couple will constantly increase. You could end up waiting forever for the right time to conceive. But if you're still living from paycheck to paycheck, dining out on the McDonald's Dollar Menu every evening and trying to find the career paths that make the most sense, it could be smart to wait.
We could add a child into the crowded mix that is our one-bedroom condo. Our own parents dealt with similar situations in the past, and survived. But we're already tripping over the three cats that we're not allowed to have. And our storage space no longer has any storage space left. And I've taken to working on my laptop in bed, which is not ideal. And sometimes, I feel as if I'm being consumed by furniture, knick-knacks, books, dust bunnies, everything. When my husband and I first moved in together, it took awhile to get used to to sharing such a small space with another person. We still have tussles over whether or not he's allowed to watch TV while I'm trying to get work done, or whether or not I should even be working in bed when he's trying to sleep. Adding a child to that chaos could precipitate a major meltdown. Talk together about the amount of space you want for your family, and how it aligns with the amount of space you most definitely need. Is an upgrade necessary before expanding your family and, if so, is an upgrade possible? Food for thought. The Thermostat War, And 6 More Silly Compromises
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