Do you tell your partner "Show me, Don't Tell me" or "Tell me, Don't Show me?" Every person feels loved a different way. My husand is very visual and feels loved the most when I do something appealing to the eye, and act on it. I, on the other hand, will dismiss all the actions he showed that day until he has told me his feelings, then I will realize all the small things he did for me that day.
One day my husband came home with flowers for no reason. I was flattered and thought that my husband was very sweet for doing this. I can't say it made me feel loved because I didn't hear him tell me. Later that night I was putting the dishes away in the kitchen as he was sitting down with our son finishing supper and he asked me, "Aren't the flowers beautiful?" I said, "Yes they are, thank you sweetie!" He added, "they light up the room just like you do......I love you!" From that moment I realized how much it meant to him to give me flowers, to show me he loves me and now that he knows I need it in words, he can tell me also. I gave him a big hug and our son said to me, "You're beautiful mommy!" (Take a deep breath and enjoy the moment.)
In our marriage, and I've seen in many others, we want to be loved by our partner. That's true for you too? What a coincidence! Now we simply give love to our partners the way we want to be love, why does that not work?Story Two: