- Departure nontype (DNT): he has the opposite qualities of the people you often date
- Superficial nontype (SNT): he doesn't add up on paper and doesn't fit the criteria on your perfect-spouse checklist
- Circumstantial nontype (CNT): even though you normally would, outside circumstances prevent you from going for him
Below, we've outlined some of the most common nontypes and what Syrtash has to say about them.
"He's Too Nice"(DNT)
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"He's Just A Friend"(CNT)
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From now on, when you're approached by someone who isn't your type don't immediately write them off. Because what do you know about your type anyways? Give him a try and the benefit of the doubt. He might surprise you.