Dear Dr. Romance: I attract young boys

Dear Dr. Romance:

    i am from iran .Right now i read ur nice article abt difference age in couple . I am in my 40s bt nobody can guess my age n bc of my appearance i attract young boys , they think i am in my 30s.  I love an Iraqi man who is in his 20s.  We live in different country bt once met each other n we were 2gether for a week .i dont want to make u bored so i dont write more bt my question i dont feel i my age&he dont feel too the way of my life is so young . I dont know its normal i feel i  am so young ? All my girl frnds are so young and most of time they choose me as a friend . At the end if i had any mistake plz forgive me becouse im not so good in English. If you reply me you will make me happy n i wont be upset if u dont reply bc i understand you are so busy .

Dear Reader:

I don't think the age difference is as important in relationships as the problem of living in two different countries.  Being so separated makes it impossible to spend enough time together to get to know each other.

It's fine to like being with people who are younger than you are, as long as everyone is an adult. Try reading my article "Aspects of Love" at for more information.   My book, The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again will also help you understand what to look for in a relationship.