Letting go of my dream wedding...

Letting go of my dream wedding...

I am sitting at home trying to write my English Literature paper but i ended up here, lol.   I read a post that someone left and somehow i wanted to write back and tell my experince in love and see if any one else has ever done the same of giving up their dream wedding. Here it goes.....
I am 24 years old, have been with my boyfriend for 8 yrs (9 yrs in december '10), 3 of those living together and our beautiful 18 month old daughter.  J (as i will refer to him) and i love each other inconditionally!!! We have been through a few hard boats, not related with out relationship, but have made us stronger. 
He is a loving and devoted boyfriend and father dont get me wrong... Its just that we aren't marry yet and does not seem that we will ever be.... To even say that he wont marry me sounds a little bit harsh but i have been able to grow up and know that marriage may not be as important to him as it "was" to me. 
I have given up my dream weeding not only because we havent gotten engaged but because we have done everything that a couple is supposed to do AFTER the wedding....
I have been able to evaluate my life and know that i cannot live without him in it.  I would rather be with him for 50+ years than being old and not know what may have been of my life if i would have left him.   Marriage is a union between a man and a woman and THAT is there.  We bought a car a year ago and now we are in the process of buying our first house.  It's a very exciting moment to see how our daughter will have a huge backyard (maybe a dog), and J and I can sit in the afternoons just watching her grow.  Our daughter was born to unite us more and i truly believe that he is the one.... We talk about getting married someday but we dont have an especific year... if we get marry when we are 40 or 50 years old it will still be as emotional and meaningful as if we were to do it now in our mid 20's.  Plus i have to finish college!!! Is it ok to give up your dream wedding if you are happy in every sence of the word? 


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Save your breath because you only need two words to make him commit.
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