How did I get so lucky?

“How did I get so lucky?”

That is the mantra that continues to go through my mind over and over and over again… all day and all night.

You see, what I teach… whether it be how to speak to people, how to conduct a therapy session, how to make sales, how to lose weight, etc… is not a set of tools or steps. What I teach is a synthesis of my real life experiences, what I have learned by screwing up over the years, proven skills, solid theories, and techniques that work without explanation.

This column is about my real life experiences. Perhaps, it is about luck. Most likely, it is about something that so many people will never understand; and that makes me sad.

It is about the mantra that started this column off… “How did I get so lucky?”

Have you ever asked yourself that question? More specifically, have you ever asked yourself that question as it pertains to the partner you are sharing your life with? Much more specifically, have you ever asked yourself that question as it pertains to the partner you are sharing your life with… spontaneously and without any hidden agenda?

I have done all three.

I have asked myself “How did I get so lucky?” to change my emotional state to a more positive state. By asking that one question, you force your mind to come up with answers; and those answers are positive. By focusing on those positive aspects of your life of how you got so lucky, your state improves. This is a good technique when you are feeling down. Try it out for yourself the next time you are not feeling the most positive.

I have asked myself “How did I get so lucky?” as it pertains to someone I was in a relationship with. By asking this question as it pertains to your partner, you force your mind to come up with answers as to how you got so lucky to be with this person. You begin to run through all of the reasons that you can think of in terms of how lucky you are to be in this relationship. Again, not a bad technique when you are questioning why you are with someone. I know marriage therapist that give this as homework, because it absolutely is a solid technique to direct your thinking in a specific direction. The problem… you can only fool yourself for so long.

And finally, I have asked myself “How did I get so lucky?” as it pertains to someone else spontaneously and without any hidden agenda. I have only experienced this once in my life. That one time is right now. All day, all night… “How did I get so lucky?” dances around in my mind.

I have heard before that luck is nothing more than the meeting of preparation and opportunity. I truly believe that. What floats out in the whelm of the unexplained for me is the “luck” that I have and how the universe has a plan that sometimes simply cannot be explained. It really should not even be attempted to be understood… just let it happen.

I would like to weave the story of how I got so lucky, and this may shed some light on how you must be prepared for an opportunity; and then throw everything I am telling right out the window, and let it unfold the way that it was meant to unfold.